LEARN TO SAY “NO”
Right from childhood we tend to associate the word “NO” to rejection and despair as back then whenever we wanted to do anything fun like play, have extra candies or fries the answer would always be No. As we grow up we tend to associate that hurt we felt as kids on hearing ‘no’. One thing we need to consider is that when we are young, parents act as our Conscience and deny those requests which might cause us disadvantage in times to come and as an adult this responsibility is on us.
The dilemma we encounter in saying “no” often rises from an internal struggle between desire to fulfill our current commitments and a coinciding need to cater to, or nurture, a relationship.
Being able to say no may enable you to be more honest and authentic with others. You may be less likely to feel taken advantage of, and people may learn to come to you for the things to which you are more inclined to say yes.
By Laurie Leinwand, MA, LPC, GoodTherapy.org Topic Expert Contributor
Events in which you say MAYBE but really want to say NO are the most impulsive ones and can create false expectations for the other person. Such events should be avoided and it will be better to say NO in a clear and straightforward manner. Being proactive and prepared, may help to say no more confidently so you can say yes to things that are truly important to you.
Remember! "Half Of TheTroubles Of This Life Can Be Traced To Saying Yes To Quickly And Not Saying No Soon Enough"~ Josh Bilings